As the mother of an almost 5 week old, you can imagine the amount of crying I have to endure :). She cries after I’ve exhausted every possibility of what could be wrong, which can be the most frustrating of all because as a parent; I instinctively want to wipe out all that is wrong and make everything okay for my baby. When she doesn’t stop crying, I wonder what I an doing wrong and in many ways, I feel like a failure as a mother. During one of our quiet moments (i.e. she was asleep-lol), I remembered a DVD that was given to me by the hospital entitled “The Period of Purple Crying” (additional information can be found athttp://www.purplecrying.info/sections/index.php?sct=1&).
Reading the information and watching the DVD helped me to understand crying as a natural part of an infant’s development. It gave me the validation I needed because it explained that babies cry, even when nothing is wrong. What a relief that was for me!!! After digesting that information, I wanted to soothe and comfort her even more because her cry and my responses to it are a natural part of our bonding and her growth in trusting I will be there whenever she needs me. Granted, I wasn’t ever going to stop trying to comfort her, but knowing I wasn’t doing anything wrong was a big weight lifted from my shoulders. I began to welcome her cries as opportunities to make things better, even though everything is already alright. What an amazing feeling~to make things better when nothing is wrong!!!
In analyzing the “crying for no reason” factor, I began to wonder why we as adults need reasons to cry? Why is crying often viewed as a sign of weakness? As refreshing and relieving as a cry can be, why must something happen first? We often wait until all of our frustrations are bottled up before we explode into a burst of crying. Or something incredibly remarkable must happen for us to cry tears of joy. Why cant we cry “just because” as a way to release or rejoice? I wonder if babies have got it right and perhaps we need to take a page out of their book.
Something to ponder.
I should nah left you without a dope blog to read to! 🙂
It has been forever since I’ve posted a blog, primarily because life has been such a whirlwind and I haven’t had much time to write. So this is basically a “catch all” post.
~I can’t remember off of the top of my head how far along in my pregnancy I was when I last posted, however today I am 37 weeks and will be 38 weeks tomorrow. Thank God, I am now considered full term and my baby is in the ideal position for her escape into the world, which means I can go into labor at any point now. Exciting and scary at the same time!!!
~We decided to change her name from Nola Grace to Nola Rose so that she would be named after her grandmother and great-grandmother, 2 phenomenal women who have had a great impact on our lives and the lives of many others. Our angel is destined for greatness!
Hmmm….I guess that’s it. Well, that’s all I want to include in this post. I have much more that I’ve experienced and learned over the past month, however I want to honor them with a post of their own.
Ok, I’ll admit it: all I can really think about right now is my baby and forgot what else I wanted to include in this blog! Ahahaaha!!!
Why did I create this blog?
There are probably as many answers to that question as hours in the day, however the most simple is because I love writing. Expressing myself through words has proven to be very therapeutic for me, as I am often unable to accurately express myself verbally. I could blame my short attention span for my lack of verbal prowess (and some may even debate the aforementioned as a fact given my witty personality ;~), but the most honest answer is I simply have more thoughts floating through my mind than I have opportunities to express them in my day-to-day interactions.
I am also embarking on what I am certain will be the biggest accomplishment of my life in becoming a mother for the first time this July. That in and of itself renders the need to have an outlet, an avenue through which I can be Shanika, without labels or titles…..the ability to continue to be me and not lose sight of why I was chosen to fulfill this most important ministry of motherhood in the first place.
Finally, LOVE having debates! I love exchanging ideas and various points of view on different subject matter. My goal is not to change minds or to force another to believe as I do, but to take the opportunity to see something through another’s eyes. It is through these eye-altering experiences that we are able to solidify beliefs while honoring another’s right to believe differently. That being said; one never knows what she or he can learn or become enlightened on until they meet a differing opinion. As such, I welcome all comments and look forward to hearing your voice!
So yes, another blogger has entered the universe, because……..I CAN :~)! I hope you enjoy your time here, but most importantly I hope you follow and become an active participant of my blog (click the link at the top of the screen) and tell your friends to do the same! Many thanks!