Situations don’t change until I change the way I look at them.
There have been many times in my life when I’ve taken a step back to evaluate how I could have better handled various situations. Without fail, I’m always able to see what I could have done or said differently. In my estimation, this was all I needed to accept responsibility and try to make things right. This led to a series of conversations in which I apologized and offered my explanation of why I responded or reacted the way I did, not to excuse the behavior, but to offer context so the other party would know that my action or reaction had nothing to do with them, as I earnestly believe that what comes from us, defines us, and no one else.
It was during this process of atonement, if you will, that l learned a lesson that was paramount in my professing: just because you (truly) accept responsibility, doesn’t mean others will (truly).
Some would rather be pacified within their oblivion and accept the words of a party not privy to the facts first-hand, further solidifying their faux-truth than accept the hard truth that maybe, just maybe they were also wrong.
This realization allowed me to transform my mind, resulting in new vision, new light, new healing, new hope.
It would have been detrimental to my quest to live a purposed-led life to sit and wait for an genuine apology, acceptance of responsibility, or a mere acknowledgement that I, too, am human and have feelings.
My challenge to you is to change the way you look at the situations in your life that are causing you angst. Do your part in evaluating what you could have said or done differently, fully accepting personal responsibility. Face your hard truth. Seek to make things right with those individuals.
The key: do it for you, without any expectation of a return on investment. Always remember that whatever response, or lack their of, that you receive isn’t about you at all.
Situations don’t change until you change the way you look at them.
Reference: Romans 12:2—>And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Blessings to you as you achieve the peace you deserve.