Love & Stupidity

In Atlanta‘s installment of the reality television showLove and Hip Hop,” there is a couple (Stevie J. and Mimi) who have supposedly been together for 15 years, despite the fact that Stevie has had other public relationships within this time frame. That aside, within the first couple episodes of this television show it was apparent to anyone with eyes that Stevie is the opposite of faithful, as he and his “mistress” on the show (Joseline) aren’t attempting to hide their horizontal mambo shenanigans.

I’m not surprised Mimi is choosing to remain with Stevie because many woman have taken back their men despite evidence of cheating. I actually believe in most cases the women know the truth regarding the guy they are dealing with but choose to rationalize and make excuses for hanging on to the hope he will one day “wake up and realize what a great woman I am.”


What I have a question about is, given that Mimi is not in the dark about Stevie, is she stupid for remaining with him? In one of the episodes they discuss formulating a contract from which she would earn a percentage of his work and the work of his artist, ironically the mistress. Does the promise of a payday trump the promise of exclusivity?


Perhaps Mimi has dealt with so much over the years that she has reached a point where she feels she needs to get something out of this situation and if that something isn’t total loyalty and devotion from the father of her child/the man she says she is in love with; perhaps a check will suffice? Is she the smart one in this situation? I’m certain we all know women who have dealt with and put up with similar situations, only to leave the situation (by their choice or not) with nothing more than lessons learned (hopefully). Some women leave these situations with more debt, bitterness, and unfulfilled promises than before. Other women leave relationships with more cars, condos, and cash than before. My question is: who is more stupid?


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