Can a person be too nice?
Can you be so accommodating you become a nice little liar? Living out an existence that doesn’t fulfill you or make you happy, all because the person you are with is a “nice guy.”
It’s hard to let go of someone who has been nothing but nice to you, even after you’ve determine they really serve no purpose other than taking up space or allowing you to pass time until the right one comes along.
Why is it so hard to let go of the nice man or the nice woman even when they add no value to your life?
It’s almost as if we need permission in the form of disappointment or drama before dismissal.
Why can’t we simply have a mature conversation that may go something like this: ” Dear Dick (or Jane, which ever you prefer), I’ve prayed about it and this is the point at which you get off of my bus. Yes, this is your stop. No, you have not done anything wrong. I just know you are not the one for me and I am not the one for you. I appreciate the journey we’ve taken, however your retaining that seat would only serve to hinder the person for whom it was created. I wish you the best. Goodbye.”
Unfortunately, most have not learned a mature way of breaking off a relationship, even when the writing is on the wall. And it’s even harder if it’s nice italicized writing. While some people can find a reason to break up with a liar or cheater, we often struggle to find the logic that justifies breaking up with a nice one.
I think that happens because there are so many yucky people in the world that we have been hardened to the point to where if the minimal is met; we latch on without truly and comprehensively evaluating all characteristics of the person. Just because a person is nice does not mean you should spend the rest of your life with him or her. What are their interests? What are their goals in life? What is their passion? Are the two of you able to have engaging conversations? Does your tummy feel that flutter when he or she is around? Is there chemistry between the two of you?
There are so many things to look at other than whether or not he or she is simply nice. Santa Claus is nice, however do you really want to spend the rest of your life at the North Pole with a man who only works one day out of the year and all of the other days; he sits around playing with his wood?